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I do not claim her on our taxes.
If you write off child care expenses of $4500 under her social security number, the IRS would be looking for her to file a return claiming child care income. A parent does not have to live with you to claim them as a dependent. You may want to go through this quick quiz, Whom may I claim as a dependent?
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